Eight Common Goal Setting Mistakes
Goal Setting Mistake 1: Setting Unrealistic Goals
When you’re exploring possible goals, you need to unleash your imagination and ambition, put your reservations aside, and dream big dreams. However, once you’ve decided on a goal, make sure that it is realistic, and that you can actually achieve it in the time frame that you have set for yourself.
To set realistic goals, use SMART Goal Setting strategies: make sure that your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
Goal Setting Mistake 2: Focusing on Too Few Areas
Although this is an ambitious but achievable list of goals, there’s a potential problem: these goals focus only on your career. You’ve completely omitted goals from other parts of your life.
When you set your goals, make sure that you strike the right balance between different areas of your life. And remember that “balance” is different for everyone – use the Wheel of Life tool to understand which areas of your life you need to focus on most.
Goal Setting Mistake 3: Underestimating Completion Time
How often has a task or project taken longer than you thought? Probably more times than you can count! You may also say the same for goals that you’ve set in the past.
If you don’t estimate goal completion time accurately, it can be discouraging when things take longer to achieve than you think they should. This can cause you to give up.
So, use Action Programs and effective scheduling strategies when planning your goals. And always pad your timelines to account for delays and setbacks. If you add extra time into your estimate, you’ll feel less pressure to rush and finish by a certain date.
Goal Setting Mistake 4: Not Appreciating Failure
No matter how hard you work, you will fail to achieve goals from time to time.
However, your failures are what ultimately determine your character. They also contain lessons that can change your life for the best, if you have the courage to learn from them.
So don’t be too upset if you fail to achieve your goals – just take note of where you went wrong and use that knowledge to reach your goals next time around.
Goal Setting Mistake 5: Setting “Other People’s Goals”
Some people – family, friends, or even your boss – may want to influence the goals you set. Perhaps they feel that they know what’s best for you, or maybe they want you to take a certain path or do certain things.
Clearly, it’s important that you have good relationships with these people, and you need to do what your boss asks, within reason.
However, your goals need to be your own – not anybody else’s. So be politely assertive , and do what you want to do!
Goal Setting Mistake 6: Not Reviewing Progress
This is why it’s important to take stock of everything that you’ve accomplished on a regular basis. Set small sub-goals, celebrate your successes, and analyse what you need to do to keep moving forward. No matter how slow things seem, you probably are making progress!
You can also take this opportunity to update your goals, based on what you’ve learnt. Have your priorities changed? Or do you need to set aside some extra time for a particular goal activity?
Goals are never set in stone, so don’t be afraid to amend them if you need to.
Goal Setting Mistake 7: Setting “Negative” Goals
How you think about your goal can influence how you feel about it, and whether you achieve it.
For instance, many people have a goal to “lose weight.” However, this goal has a negative connotation; it’s focused on what you don’t want – your weight. A positive way to reframe this goal is to say you want to “get healthy.”
Another example of a negative goal is to “stop staying late at work.” A positive way to rephrase this is to “spend more time with family.”
Negative goals are emotionally unattractive, which makes it hard to focus on them. Reframe any negative goals so that they sound positive: you may be surprised by the difference this makes!
Goal Setting Mistake 8: Setting Too Many Goals
The problem with this is that you have a fixed amount time and energy. If you try to focus on many different goals at once, you can’t give individual goals the attention they deserve.
Instead, use the “quality, not quantity” rule when setting goals. Work out the relative importance of everything that you want to accomplish over the next six to twelve months. Then pick no more than, say, three goals to focus on.
Remember, the success of your work towards a goal rests on focusing on just a few things at a time. If you limit the number of goals you’re working on, you’ll have the time and energy you need to do things really well!
Living a life without setting goals is like sailing a ship without having planned a course: you’re likely to end up somewhere that you wouldn’t want to go! This is why you need to set goals to develop yourself and achieve your dreams.